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There are a lot of things you can do in your life to reduce both physical and mental health problems. Here are some of them.  At the top is an index where you can click on a topic and it will take you directly there. Below the index are the various topics.

 

Common Initial Steps Towards Wellness

        Finding Mental Health Professionals

        Mood Charts

Exercise

Sleep

Reducing Stress  

        Coping with Stress

        Job Stress

        Other Stresses

Deep Meditation

        Frequently Asked Questions About Deep Meditation

People Who Foster Wellness

Attitude and Purpose

Mental Health Advanced Directives (MHAD) also known as Psychiatric Advance Directives (PAD)

Enhance You Life!

Common Initial Steps Towards Wellness

 

The first thing is that a person has to recognize is that they have a problem requiring investigation.  It is necessary to get a correct diagnosis from a professional (self diagnosis is not good).  If the diagnosis is questionable then other professional opinions should be obtained until you can believe that the correct problem has been identified.

 

It is crucial that a person gets a good understanding of the meaning and implications of the diagnosis.  Knowledge can be very helpful to reduce the stress of a new diagnosis and help you understand what can be done You need to know if this might be a temporary problem or if it is a disorder that will require lifetime monitoring and care.  It is important to know if there are dangers associated with not adequately caring for the disorder.

 

It is important to get professional support you can depend upon.  Just as you would not go to your family doctor for a prescription of cancer chemotherapy, it is better to see a psychiatrist for treatment of a mood disorder.  They are experts in psychotropic drugs and how they interact with each other.  There are a variety of treatments.  Working as a partner with a psychiatrist is the best way to decide a good course for you.

 

Studies have shown that psychiatric medical treatment when done in conjunction with psycho-therapy is much more effective than either alone.  There are a variety of types of therapy and therapists have various degrees.  What is important is to get a therapy and therapist that best fits your needs.  Some people like to get recommendations from others when finding a therapist.  Others prefer to go through the selection process completely on their own.

 

In addition, most psychiatric problems are also improved by lifestyle changes.  Exercise, diet, sleeping right, reducing stress, relieving stress, and being around people who foster wellness are some of the things that can help the mind and moods.

 

Finding Mental Health Professionals

 

There are various ways to locate psychiatrists, psychologists, and other mental health professionals in your community.  It is an important decision but you do not need to worry about possibly selecting someone who does not meet your needs.  You can always look for someone else if you if you aren't satisfied with any aspect of your treatment and you do not feel that you can resolve the issue.  Locating a mental health provider that is right for you is a personal process and it can take time.

 

There are a number of things many people look for.  The person should be someone with whom you will be able to openly and honestly express yourself.  It should not matter who you are or what has happened in your past.  They should respect you and your background.  You need to know exactly what their boundaries are with confidentiality, safety, and privacy.  It is important that they understand what is going on with you and be sensitive to it.  They need to be able to help you deal with whatever challenges you may face.  They need to respect your rights and needs.  They have to help you cope with the various financial situations you may get into.  You also have the right to a thorough explanation of your treatment options.

 

Places To Find Providers 

 

Many insurance companies only cover services offered by their selected mental health providers.  If you have insurance that may pay for mental health services it is usually a good idea to contact them before choosing providers.  If you have Medicare coverage then it can be good to look for mental health professionals that accept it.

 

Other ways to local a mental health professional are:

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Go to a local support group you can ask people if they know of professionals in your area that they would personally recommend.

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Contact the psychiatry department of a local medical school, or the psychology department of a local university.

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Contact a local hospital directly and ask about mental health clinics, or staff psychiatrists.

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Check Clinical Trials for trials in your area in which you may qualify.

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Contact a professional society, such as the American Psychiatric Association, American Psychological Association, National Association of Social Workers, etc.

NJMentalHealthCares   http://www.njmentalhealthcares.org/ 
Call 866-202-HELP (4357) TTY: 877-294-4356
NJMentalHealthCares connects you to mental health services in New Jersey  including: inpatient and outpatient services, rehabilitation services, self-help services, legal, housing, employment, mental health education and more. Your call is answered by knowledgeable mental health professionals live from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. (at other times they call you back within a day - including weekends and holidays). They speak to you in the language you prefer or by TTY. They provide an up-to-date listing of NJ's public mental health providers.  Email: njmentalhealthcares@mhanj.org 

American Psychiatric Association  http://www.healthyminds.org/locateapsychiatrist.cfm

The APA's organizational objectives include the advancement and improvement of care for persons with mental illnesses through nationwide public information, education, and awareness programs and materials.  To locate a psychiatrist in your area, please contact our APA Answer Center. Please be sure to provide us with your postal address, including your city, state/province and zip code, as well as the postal address, email and or fax to which we should reply.

APA Answer Center

American Psychiatric Association

1000 Wilson Boulevard

Suite 1825

Arlington, VA 22209

OR Call Toll-Free: 1-888-35-PSYCH   From outside the U.S. and Canada call: 1-703-907-7300

Email: apa@psych.org

 

American Psychological Association   http://locator.apahelpcenter.org/

A psychologist can help you cope with many of life's problems. To locate a psychologist in your local area using our new and growing online locator service, enter your zip code or a city and state and click "Search". You can also obtain a referral to a psychologist in your area by calling 1-800-964-2000. The operator will use your zip code to locate and connect you with the referral service of the state psychological association.

 

American Medical Association   http://webapps.ama-assn.org/doctorfinder/home.html

Doctor Finder provides you with basic professional information on virtually every licensed physician in the United States. This includes more than 690,000 doctors.  Phone (312) 464-5000

 

National Association of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapists   http://www.nacbt.org/searchfortherapists.asp

You may search for a mental health professional near you who is certified by the National Association of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapists.  Simply enter either the state for which you are searching and click on the "Submit" button.

 

National Association of Social Workers   http://www.socialworkers.org/register/default.asp

The NASW Register provides a listing of clinical social workers that meet verified uniform national professional criteria. It also facilitates improved inter- and intra-professional referrals and consultations to accommodate individualized treatment planning sensitive to diagnosis, preferred treatment modality, cultural issues and geographical locations. Many Web listings of psychotherapists fail to verify the credentials and education of the applicants. However, NASW has verified this criteria for every individual listed in the NASW Register.

 

Anxiety Disorders Association of America   http://www.adaa.org/GettingHelp/FindATherapist.asp

The Anxiety Disorders Association of America provides a list of its members who have identified themselves as mental health providers. For ease of use, these providers are listed geographically.

 

The International Association for Cognitive Psychotherapy    http://cognitivetherapyassociation.org/refhome.aspx 

The International Association for Cognitive Psychotherapy (IACP) provides the names and contact information for the individuals listed below who offer their services for psychotherapy. The IACP makes no judgment about the licenses or specific qualifications of individuals. We suggest that you ask any potential provider about their credentials, licenses, and experience dealing with the particular problems that you are presenting. Listing on this website does not constitute endorsement by the IACP.

 

Dr. Ivan's Depression Central   http://www.psycom.net/depression.central.psychiatrists.html

This is a listing of psychiatrists in the U.S.A. specializing in the treatment of individuals with all types of depressive disorders including Bipolar (manic- depressive) Disorder, Cyclothymia, Dysthymia, Major Depression, and other mood disorders.

 

Locate a Doc   http://www.locateadoc.com/

Find psychiatrists or psychologists by city or state

 

International Psychiatric Organizations by Country   http://www.psych.org/psych_pract/countrys.cfm

 

American Association of Christian Counselors   http://aacc.net/resources/find-a-counselor/

 

NOTE: We could not find any other mental health professional location services for any other faiths.  If you have such information, please contact us with as much information about the service as possible.

 

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Mood Charts

 

It can be very helpful for you and the professionals working with you to have a daily record of how you are doing.  There are a number of ways to do this, one of the most popular is a Mood Chart.  Simplistic charts are better than nothing, but more comprehensive charting can do you the most good.  A very fast way to do comprehensive charting can be found at: MyPsychTracker www.mypsychtracker.com

 

This is a free online, mood and symptom tracker.  The methods used tend to be more objective than standard mood charts.  They suggest that a therapist or psychiatrist can use this info to see how a patient is doing. (assuming the patient supplies the information).  Something that can really help is that they will send out free reminders so people don't forget to chart.  It is important to realize that although the person filling out the chart knows what a number means (say for an example a 7 for Sadness)... another person does not.  If the info is shared a person should define, in general, what a few of the numbers in each category actually represent.

 

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Exercise

 

Daily exercise can be very helpful in keeping moods level.  Working large muscles hard enough to affect your heart rate and breathing is best.  Many people enjoy outside activities such as vigorous walking, bicycling, or swimming.  Others prefer workouts at home or at a gym.

 

If you are usually fairly inactive, any increase in exercise is good.  Small things like parking further away from a store (or at least stop the habit of searching for the nearest park.)  Take the stairs instead of an elevator or escalator.  When you are walking, pick up the pace.  Even if you are watching TV there are ways of increasing your activity in steps.  If you usually lie in bed then sit in a chair.  If you normally sit then stand (it may seem a little silly but it really does make a difference.).  If you typically stand then try walking around or using a treadmill.

 

Some people slowly increase their activity by using an inexpensive pedometer to keep track of the number of steps they take a day.  Making a commitment to continually increase your steps each day not only increases your exercise, it shows you when you are slipping back to inactivity.

 

Lots of people have the basic problem of motivation.  It is much easier to exercise once than to do it regularly.  It can be extremely difficult to exercise when you need it most... such as when you are severely depressed.  If you can make exercise part of your daily routine then you are less likely to have to make a decision to exercise and when.  If you have something you normally do and can increase the degree of activity that can help. (such as transforming a leisurely activity of walking your dog into a longer more energetic one.)  Some people find that having a personal trainer can be good.  Remembering that part of the trainer's personal income is lost every time you do miss... might help you get to the sessions regularly.

 

Another way people get an exercise routine is to join a group of people working out.  It can be aerobics, jazzercise, yoga, low-impact swim exercise, Tai Chi, self-defense, etc.  It doesn't matter what you do so much as whether it interests you enough to keep up the routine to do it..

 

Supplementing regular exercise with special times can be good.  Most sports provide good exercise.  Including activities such as hiking interesting areas can be a great way to enliven trips and vacations.

 

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Sleep

 

People usually do best with about 8 hours of sleep.  Several days of less than 7 hours or greater than 9 hours is usually unhealthy.  Mood swings can cause problems with sleep.  When in a depression many people sleep too much.  When on the manic side many people sleep too little.  It is important to know that the wrong amount of sleep can cause those same mood swings.

 

If you are having problems getting enough sleep you might want to look for these possible causes.

 

*        Persistent stress

*        Relationship problems

*        Use of stimulants such as caffeine, cocaine, and some diet drugs

*        Alcohol consumption

*        Shift work or keeping erratic hours

*        Inactive lifestyle

*        Environmental factors like noise and light

*        Depression, mania, or anxiety disorders

 

Things you can try to get better sleep

 

*        Keep a regular schedule with a consistent bedtime

*        Use your bedroom mainly for sleep

*        Exercise regularly, but try to finish exercise at least 3 to 4 hours before going to bed

*        Avoid caffeine for at least 6 hours before going to bed

*        Avoid large meals close to bedtime

*        If you nap during the day, try to do so at the same time each day, and limit napping to an hour or less

*        Too much sleep can be cause shallow, unrestful sleep

*        Do not lie in bed unable to sleep for more than 30 minutes.  It is usually good to get up and do a restful activity such as reading, taking a warm bath, listening to music, etc.

 

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Reducing Stress

 

Most people can recognize stressful things in their life.  A lot of the time the stress is viewed as unavoidable.  After all, who would choose to keep stress in their life?  Actually since it is impossible to eliminate stress, everybody makes choices about stress.

 

A very important thing to remember about stress is that is not only damaging to a person's mental health, is also is a primary cause of major physical illnesses.  Stress can impair you from having a good life and stress can kill you.  Managing stress is an important way to move towards wellness and to remain healthy.  This involves not only reducing and avoiding stress, but also actively throwing off the effects of stress on your body and mind.

Coping with Stress 

Stress makes life miserable, and it can take its toll on your health, both emotionally and physically.  The longer stress continues without being dealt with, the more damage it can do.  Depression, anxiety, irritability, fatigue, high blood pressure, heart disease, digestive problems, aches and pains, unhealthy weight gain or loss, and trouble sleeping can all result from unresolved stress.  Eventually, relationships may become strained or lost, and work or school may become too difficult to maintain.  So, it is important to cope with stress before you lose the balance in your life. 

People find all sorts of ways to cope with stress.  Many strategies are healthy and are proven to work.  Unfortunately, some are self-destructive and can compound the effects of stress. 

Healthy ways to cope with stress: 

bulletPractice Deep Breathing:  This can help relax your mind and body.  Concentrate on your breathing.  Take a slow, deep breath in through your nose.  Let your stomach expand and imagine it filling up like a balloon.  Let your diaphragm push down into your abdomen.  Hold the breath for a moment then let it out slowly through your mouth.  Repeat as often as necessary.
bulletS.T.A.R.:  Stop, Think, Act appropriately, and Relax.  Whenever you encounter a stressful situation, this technique can help you perform without becoming overwhelmed.  Immediately stop your train of thought and clear your mind (imagining a stop sign helps).  Focus like a laser on the task at hand.  Identify the actions that you can take that are appropriate and responsible, and take them.  Then, relax and let it be, because you have done your part.
bulletTalk to Someone:  Tell someone you trust what's on your mind.  Keeping something all bottled up inside only increases stress, but getting it off your chest can be a relief.  Often, another person can give you a perspective or idea you've never considered.  Seek support from people who care about you, such as family members, friends, and support group peers.  If you aren't comfortable talking to someone who is close to you, or if confidentiality is an issue, find a professional such as a therapist or religious leader.
bulletJournal:  Writing in a journal can be a good way to safely express thoughts and feelings.  Sometimes you're not even sure how you're feeling until you start writing.  You may surprise yourself.  And you may write things that you're not comfortable telling other people yet.  Sorting things out on paper can bring a sense of relief and give you a way to step back and gain insight into your own thoughts.  You can use this insight to help you deal with your feelings and take positive actions.  When you write, be completely honest and don't worry about grammar or spelling.  Just use stream of consciousness and write the way you would talk.
bulletMeditate:  Meditating can help refresh your mind and body when you feel stressed-out.  Set aside a half hour and find a quiet place where you know you won't be disturbed by anything or anyone.  Get into a comfortable position and clear your mind of everything except a single peaceful image or sound.  Some people like to play a CD with very relaxing music or nature sounds.  You may want to practice some deep breathing to help you relax.  Focus on the image or sound and let go of the physical world.  Let yourself feel free and at peace.  After 20 minutes or so, gradually allow yourself to be aware of your surroundings again.  Hopefully, you will feel refreshed and less tense.  Of course, there are many variations on meditating - develop one that works for you.
bulletPractice the Progressive Relaxation Technique:  This form of meditation can help you relax physically.  Go to the quiet place where you won't be disturbed and get comfortable.  Starting with your feet, flex and relax each muscle group in your body, slowly working your way up to your head.  Hold the tension for 3 to 5 seconds, then relax and take a slow, deep breath.  Gradually work each muscle group one at a time from bottom to top until you finish with your head and face.  Try this technique when your muscles feel stiff or tense from stress.  
bulletExercise:  Exercising can be a great way to work tension and restlessness out of your system.  It can also improve your blood pressure and cardiovascular strength, making it easier for you to tolerate stress.  Exercise can even cause your body to release endorphins (a type of hormone), which may make you feel calmer.  Your workout doesn't have to be fancy - something like a regular brisk walk can make a big difference.  Please consult your doctor before starting any exercise program.
bulletDevelop Healthy Eating Habits:  A sensible diet can give your body the strength and balance it needs to successfully endure stress.  And like exercise, the right diet can decrease your chances of developing heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes - diseases that become even more dangerous when combined with stress.  Choose foods you know are healthy, like fruits, vegetables, nuts, and whole grains.  Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated.  Avoid the "foods" and beverages you know are just junk.  Read nutrition labels to stay informed about the contents and nature of the food you're buying.  Also, keep portions small and eat regularly - never skip a meal.  This helps ward off hunger and gives your body a more constant blood sugar level, and thus a more constant energy level, throughout the day.  Reducing hunger and fatigue puts you at less risk for feeling stressed-out.  For expert help on setting up the right diet program for you, see a professional dietician, and as always, please consult your doctor before changing your diet.      *Note:  If you're thinking about trying dietary supplements or herbal remedies, be extremely cautious.  These are not regulated by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration and are not FDA-approved for safety or effectiveness.  Some can be very dangerous, especially when combined with certain prescription medicines you may be taking.  Always consult your doctor before considering any non-prescription supplement or remedy.
bulletGet Sufficient Rest:  The body needs rest and sleep so it can replenish its energy and repair damage.  Trying to function on too little rest can put great stress on the mind and body.  Most people need about 8 hours of sleep per night, though some may need less or more.  To get the most restful sleep, go to bed and get up at the same times each day.  Develop a bedtime routine to help you wind down.  Make sure your bedroom is dark and quiet.  Exercise during the day, but don't exercise or eat a large meal within 3 hours of bedtime, and avoid caffeine.  If you have trouble sleeping for an extended period of time, or if you are sleeping a lot but still feel tired all day, and your ability to perform normal daily activities is impaired, please see your doctor.
bulletPray/Practice Faith:  For those with a religious faith, communicating with your higher power can provide a lot of comfort during difficult times.  Talking to God means talking to someone who you know understands and cares.  Tell God what's bothering you and let Him carry the burden for you.  For more guidance or to help you focus, read an inspirational religious passage or talk to a religious leader.  Having faith that God has a plan and is on your side can be a great relief.
bulletMake Lists:  Trying to keep track of everything you have to do and remember can create a lot of anxiety.  But simply making a list can help you organize your affairs on paper, rather than having them flying around in your head.  Examples of helpful lists include:  a daily to-do list, a shopping list, and a list of things you want to tell your doctor.  Write down everything you need to remember or accomplish and focus on one item at a time.  As you address each item, cross it off the list.  You might even be surprised how good it feels to physically scratch off a task that you've completed.
bulletBe Creative:  When talking and journaling aren't enough, using your creativity can be another good way to express yourself.  Drawing, painting, writing a story or poem, playing an instrument, or building something with your hands are just some of the possible artistic outlets for dealing with stress.  Do whatever helps you cope, and don't worry about how talented you are - you're not trying to produce a work of art; you're just trying to relieve some stress.  When you begin, you might not be sure what to create.  But as with journaling, you may surprise yourself, and you may gain insight into your feelings that helps you take positive action.  And don't be afraid to try something new - you never know what you'll find helpful or enjoyable.
bulletSeek a Healthy Escape:  Do something fun!  Facing your problems and dealing with them can be healthy, but dwelling on them can make you feel worse.  So take a break for a while and read a book or see a movie.  Practice your hobby.  Watch the ballgame or your favorite TV show, or surf the Internet.  Call some friends and go out to dinner.  Take a walk around the mall.  Whatever you do, enjoy it and let it take your mind off your troubles.  The diversion just might refresh your mind and leave you better able to cope when you face the "real" world again.
bulletListen to Relaxing Music:  Music can have an effect on mood.  To help deal with stress, choose music that you find relaxing.  If it has lyrics, you could even try singing along to help release some tension.  Any music that you enjoy can be beneficial.  Or you could try listening to recordings of nature sounds, which many people find soothing.
bulletEnjoy Nature:  There's something soothing about nature.  Taking a break from your indoor, high-tech world to enjoy the natural world can help relieve stress.  Go to the local park and take a walk or sit and watch the animals.  Go on a picnic or take a ride through the countryside.  Go to the beach or go hiking or fishing.  Build a snowman.  Or just play with your pet in the yard.  Leave your cell phone turned off so the "real" world can't disturb your peaceful outing.
bulletTake a Warm Bath or Shower:  Warm water can be great for easing tension.  It can relax your muscles and dilate your blood vessels, which can increase circulation.  A few minutes of solitude can refresh the mind as well.
bulletSqueeze a Stress Ball or Chew Gum:  These can be good physical outlets for releasing stress.  Stress balls are sold in stores, or you can just use a nerf ball or a pillow.  Gum is the little stress ball you chew.
bulletSeek Professional Treatment:  If you feel overwhelmed by stress or it is interfering with your ability to function normally, it may be appropriate to seek help from a professional.  Stress can lead to problems such as depression and anxiety that are best treated with the guidance of a therapist or psychiatrist.  Stress can also take a toll on your physical health, causing problems such as high blood pressure and digestive illnesses, which require medical treatment.  There are a lot of effective treatments available that may help you deal with the emotional and physical consequences of stress, so talk to your doctor.

 Self-destructive ways to cope with stress: 

bulletUse Alcohol or Drugs:
bulletOvereat:
bulletSmoke:
bulletInjure/Torture Yourself:
bulletIsolate:
bulletAbuse/Blame Others:
bulletDo Nothing:

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Job Stress

 

One of the first ways people think of when trying to reduce stress is to eliminate stressors from their life.  For example, they may decide their working conditions to be very unhealthy but feel that they are trapped in it due to finances.  There are things that can be done to reduce job stress without quitting your job or taking a job with lesser responsibilities.

 

The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH) is the Federal agency responsible for conducting research and making recommendations for the prevention of work-related illness and injury.

 

They have produced a pamphlet about job related stress.  http://www.cdc.gov/niosh/stresswk.html

 

Here are some excerpts:

 

Stress sets off an alarm in the brain, which responds by preparing the body for defensive action. The nervous system is aroused and hormones are released to sharpen the senses, quicken the pulse, deepen respiration, and tense the muscles. This response (sometimes called the fight or flight response) is important because it helps us defend against threatening situations. The response is preprogrammed biologically. Everyone responds in much the same way, regardless of whether the stressful situation is at work or home.

 

Short-lived or infrequent episodes of stress pose little risk. But when stressful situations go unresolved, the body is kept in a constant state of activation, which increases the rate of wear and tear to biological systems. Ultimately, fatigue or damage results, and the ability of the body to repair and defend itself can become seriously compromised. As a result, the risk of injury or disease escalates.

 

In the past 20 years, many studies have looked at the relationship between job stress and a variety of ailments. Mood and sleep disturbances, upset stomach and headache, and disturbed relationships with family and friends are examples of stress-related problems that are quick to develop and are commonly seen in these studies. These early signs of job stress are usually easy to recognize. But the effects of job stress on chronic diseases are more difficult to see because chronic diseases take a long time to develop and can be influenced by many factors other than stress. Nonetheless, evidence is rapidly accumulating to suggest that stress plays an important role in several types of chronic health problems-especially cardiovascular disease, musculoskeletal disorders, and psychological disorders.

 

One-fourth of employees view their jobs as the number one stressor in their lives.

-Northwestern National Life

 

Problems at work are more strongly associated with health complaints than are any other life stressor-more so than even financial problems or family problems.

-St. Paul Fire and Marine Insurance Co.

 

The concept of job stress is often confused with challenge, but these concepts are not the same. Challenge energizes us psychologically and physically, and it motivates us to learn new skills and master our jobs. When a challenge is met, we feel relaxed and satisfied. Thus, challenge is an important ingredient for healthy and productive work. The importance of challenge in our work lives is probably what people are referring to when they say "a little bit of stress is good for you.

 

Examples of individual and situational factors that can help to reduce the effects of stressful working conditions include the following:

 

*        Balance between work and family or personal life

*        A support network of friends and coworkers

*        A relaxed and positive outlook

 

Organizational characteristics associated with both healthy, low-stress work and high levels of productivity.

 

*        Recognition of employees for good work performance

*        Opportunities for career development

*        An organizational culture that values the individual worker

*        Management actions that are consistent with organizational values

 

To Prevent Job Stress

 

*        Ensure that the workload is in line with workers' capabilities and resources.

*        Design jobs to provide meaning, stimulation, and opportunities for workers to use their skills.

*        Clearly define workers' roles and responsibilities.

*        Give workers opportunities to participate in decisions and actions affecting their jobs.

*        Improve communications-reduce uncertainty about career development and future employment prospects.

*        Provide opportunities for social interaction among workers.

*        Establish work schedules that are compatible with demands and responsibilities outside the job.

 

 

Other Stresses

 

One major source of stress outside of work is the people you associate with.  If you believe someone is a major source of stress then it might be good to try an set clear boundaries with them.  For example, if there always seems to be an argument about politics then setting the boundary that political discussions are off-limits could be good.  If a person is a major stress in your life and you cannot find a way to reduce the stress, then you might have to evaluate your relationship.

 

Imagined stress is just as harmful as any other.  It is important to talk with your health care providers about this if it is a problem with you.  There are various methods to reduce the stress.

 

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Deep Meditation

 

Many studies have shown that meditation techniques that produce a deep level of relaxation can be an excellent way of releasing tension and reducing the harmful effects of stress.  Unlike some techniques, the effective meditation method described here is quite simple to learn and even easier to practice.

 

Anyone can do this simple meditation, even when depressed or hypomanic.  It is simply a way of thinking that releases tension in the body and calms the mind.  Basically if you can think then you can do this effortless yet very effective meditation method.  The only thing required is a comfortable place to sit where you will not be disturbed for 30 minutes.  The meditation itself requires only about 20 minutes.  The extra 10 minutes is to help insure that you will be left undisturbed for the entire time you are meditating.

 

This meditation is simple and very easy to do.  You just sit comfortably with your eyes shut for 20 minutes while patiently thinking of a meaningless sound slowly and repeatedly.  (such as iiiii...eeee....mmmm as a long slurred sound.)  You never want to speak the sound (even when you are not meditating) because you want this to simply be a thought in your mind, with no physical connections.

 

It is good to keep a clock facing you while meditating.  Whenever you think 20 minutes have passed peek at the clock.  If the time has not passed then just calmly close your eyes and continue to meditate.  With experience your mind will learn when the 20 minutes have passed.  It is not good to use an alarm clock because that can really startle you when you are deep in meditation and this could induce some tension.  It is also best to not allow phones or pagers to disturb you while meditating.

 

If your mind wanders as you meditate and you find you are not thinking of the sound, do not worry.  This is very natural and part of the process of relieving stress.  Just gently bring your awareness back to the sound after realizing that your thoughts have wandered.  Don't concern yourself as to whether you are meditating correctly.  If you merely sit quietly and think of the sound whenever you remember to do so... then you are meditating perfectly.

 

When the 20 minutes are finished do not quickly open your eyes and try to rise.  Often your body and mind have entered a deep state of rest and you need to take 2 minutes or so to slowly "revive" yourself.  Let your thoughts become more active... slowly flex your fingers and/or toes... and very slowly open your eyes.  When your eyes are open and you are fully aware of your environment, give yourself a little time to see how you were affected.  Stand up only after you feel inclined to do so.

 

Something to remember if you are concerned about meditating correctly is that this meditation method is effortless.  Whatever your mind does during the meditation is exactly what is needed at that time.  Sometimes you can be filled with thoughts and it seems that you rarely played the sound in your mind.  There is nothing wrong with that.  It is possible to go through the entire meditation with strong emotions or anxiety.  Even though you may not feel relaxed after such a meditation, stress and tension in your mind and body were still being relieved.

 

Try not to meditate within 2 hours after eating a meal. The activity of digesting the food does not allow your body to slow down easily during meditation. Try not to meditate within 2 hours of trying to go to sleep for the night.  The meditation reduces fatigue and provides a large amount of rest for the body and mind; therefore it can temporarily make falling asleep more difficult.

 

Frequently Asked Questions About Deep Meditation

Question: How often should I meditate?

Answer: Many people like to do a routine of meditating when they first get up in the morning and again in the late afternoon or early evening.  Some people feel they get adequate results with fewer meditations.

 

Question: Do I need to make sure I breathe in a special way?

Answer: No.  Just breathe naturally.  Do not concentrate on your breathing.  Your body will decide at what rate and how deep your breaths need to be as you meditate.

 

Question: Should I put my body or limbs in a certain position?

Answer: Just sit upright in a comfortable natural position that does not require any exertion to maintain.  (i.e. don't hold your hands behind your neck.)  It is best not to cross your legs.

 

Question: What if I do not feel relaxed after meditating?

Answer: How you feel can depend a lot upon your physical and mental condition before meditating.  Also, painful memories that need to be exposed can surface during meditation.

 

Question: Is it ok to meditate in bed?

Answer: No.  You must make sure your mind knows there is a clear difference between sleep and meditation.  Also it is not good to lounge in a chair while meditating.

 

Question: Will I be able to pay attention to sounds while I meditate?

Answer: Your hearing is not hindered therefore you can be disturbed by an imperative sound while meditating.  If it indeed is something that requires a response from you then you can do that.  You should not meditate though if there will usually be something trying to draw your attention during it.  A needy pet outside your door or a young child left unattended is not good.

 

Question: What if I fall asleep while meditating?

Answer: If you fall asleep while sitting up then your body and mind have a strong need for sleep.  You should probably investigate whether you are getting the right amount of restful sleep in bed.

 

Question: Sometimes I have different muscles jerk while I am meditating.  Does this indicate I'm doing something wrong?

Answer: No, actually it is an indication that your meditation is throwing off deep-rooted tension in your body.

 

Question: Can I use this type of meditation as a replacement for some of my sleep?

Answer: It can reduce your need for excessive amounts of sleep, but it should never be used instead of sleep.

 

Question: Is it ok to meditate for as long as I want in one sitting?

Answer: No.  If you accidentally meditate longer than 20 minutes at one time that is ok because it indicates that your body or mind needed it.  Purposefully meditating for too long at one sitting is not good.

 

Question: While I was meditating it seemed like there was a period of time when I was not conscious but I know I was not sleeping.  Is this ok?

Answer: Yes.  This can happen when you have reached a very deep state of relaxation.  Do not worry, your mind is still keeping track of the time.

 

Question: What if things like itching or obnoxious sounds distract me while I am meditating?

Answer: Before you meditate it is good to do what simply can be done to reduce distractions.  (Put a towel under a dripping faucet, use lotion for itchy skin, etc.)  While you are meditating ignore distractions if that is easy or scratch that itch if it is not.  I once had insect bites all over my body and the only relief I got from the itching was during the time I meditated.

 

Question: Should I always use the same sound while meditating?

Answer: Unless there is a good reason (such as forgetting the sound), it is best to always use the same one.

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People Who Foster Wellness

 

It is important to physically be around people who are healthy for you on a very regular basis.  Studies have shown that having supportive friends, especially those you can confide in, have a strong positive impact on people's lives.  Some people already have such friends and it is a matter of getting out regularly to be around them.  Some people find friends in hobby clubs or worshiping with others of their faith.  Many people have isolated themselves for so long that they have no idea where to meet people striving for wellness.

 

Fortunately for people with mood disorders (and other problems) there are ready made places to get support and very often develop solid friendships.  These places are safe, confidential support groups with people who empower and support each other in a healthy way.  People with similar problems can provide understanding and encouragement while sharing personal experiences.

 

Not only are there a great many types of support groups, each support group of a given type is different from all others.  Many people attend several groups before deciding on one that feel is best for them.  A lot of people are scared of going to a group and feel very uncomfortable when they finally do so.  That is why it is often suggested that someone attend a group several times... to get used to it... before deciding whether or not it is right for them.

 

If you do not feel the New Beginnings Support Group is right for you for whatever reason, here are some ways to locate other groups.

 

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance of New Jersey   www.DBSANewJersey.org

The New Jersey state DBSA organization has links to the various DBSA groups in this state.

 

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance   www.dbsalliance.org 

The DBSA parent organization has a far ranging locator guide for groups.

 

NAMI-CARE "National Alliance on Mental Illness -Consumers Advocating Recovery Through Empowerment www.nami.org

Support Group for anyone afflicted with any type psychiatric disorder. Follows a national model, based upon shared insights and empathy. Groups are affiliated with local NAMI family groups for education and advocacy. Offers trained peer facilitators. Membership $3/yr (optional). For finding or forming a CARE group in New Jersey contact Jay Yudof, NAMI NJ Consumer Outreach Liaison, 1-866-464-3267. E-mail: jyudof@hotmail.com

 

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Attitude and Purpose

 

An important requirement for wellness is gaining the belief that it is possible for you to have a good life.  If you have given up, you can easily feel like you are wandering without purpose or the power to change.  Maintaining a grasp on hopelessness makes it much more difficult to improve your life.  You do not necessarily have to forgive and no one believes you should forget, but there is a big difference between understanding the past and being stuck in it.  Focusing on the future can be very helpful.  It can strengthen your ability to concentrate your resources on getting healthy.

 

Examine your beliefs and your mental self-talk.  A lot of unhappiness in life is due listening to yourself rather than talking to yourself in a healthy way.  Everyone talks to themselves in various ways, why not choose some new language that works for you instead of against you?

 

It is also easy to be sabotaged by the people you associate with.  The beliefs and opinions of other people do not have to become your reality.  You do not have to agree with them.  If the people around you do not provide a positive environment it might be necessary to find others that will.

 

Staying healthy usually begins with having something meaningful to do each day.  One way is having a job that keeps you active (body and/or mind).  For some a low-stress job is best.  Others enjoy the challenge of having lots of responsibility.  Another way is by doing volunteer work.  This work can also be used as a way to determine whether entering the work force could help you.

 

People who work at things they enjoy often report feeling productive, needed and important. Working outside the home can give you a sense of belonging, it is important to remain a part of society. The pride you feel in whatever you do will help your self-confidence and self-esteem.

 

This work comes in many varieties. Some people find satisfaction at jobs that are relatively low-stress, while others enjoy challenging jobs with lots of responsibility. What matters is having a job that gives you a strong sense of satisfaction and fits your varying emotional needs.

 

Not all types of work are restricted to jobs.  Fortunately there are several options to keep people stimulated and to take them out of their homes. Volunteer work offers a wealth of opportunities in most any area that you can think of. It can lead up to entering the work force or it can be a valuable end in itself.

 

It is also possible to join support groups, therapy groups, or programs that offer structured days of activities.  While these programs are there to help you; another reason to go is so that you can be there to offer your friendship and experiences to help others.  Even if you gain something in return, any activity that involves making a contribution can help you find purpose in your life and that provides a good foundation upon which to build a healthy life.

 

If you want a LOT of ideas that can help change your attitude try...

 

You Can Choose To Be Happy   http://www.csulb.edu/~tstevens/index.html 

Contains a free self-development program to help you get positive control of your emotions, your relationships, and your life. Learn to overcome anxiety, anger, and depression and find more love, hope, confidence, and integrity to be the person you really want. Discover your Higher Self and learn how to overcome your worst fears of loneliness, rejection, poverty, illness, failure, etc. You can read chapters out-of-order to gain knowledge of specific topics.

 

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Mental Health Advanced Directives (MHAD) also known as Psychiatric Advance Directives (PAD)

 

Mental Health Advanced Directives (MHAD) are relatively new legal instruments that may be used to document a competent person's specific instructions or preferences regarding future mental health treatment.  MHAD can be used to plan for the possibility that you may lose capacity to give or withhold informed consent to treatment during acute episodes of psychiatric illness.  The MHAD gives very specific instructions about not only treatment decisions but other things such as ways that you have found through past experience that help you through certain conditions.

 

A good place to find out detailed information about MHAD and the specific laws of each state is at: The National Resource Center on Psychiatric Advance Directives  http://www.nrc-pad.org/index.php?option=com_frontpage&Itemid=1

It is important that everyone listed as possible personal representatives have a copy of the document. If they cannot show that legally they can make decisions then it does no good. Also, there are always questions about what you want in various situations. An advance copy allows them to read it over and have those answered before there is a problem.

 

Another great thing about a MHAD is that they are very thorough about all kinds of situations and decisions concerning mental health care. It can take a while to think over each item and come to a decision about how it should be handled. Even if you never intend to complete it and notarize it, it can be an excellent way to clarify your own thoughts about your mental health care.

 

Ideally Psychiatric Advance Directives aka Mental Health Directives (my preferred term) should be based upon the laws of your state.  If you cannot find a specific directive for your state it could be good to use the best generic one you can find.  The generic one will not be perfect for your state but it could be much better than not giving any instructions about your care.  Also, you are not always in your own state when traveling (it is good to bring a copy with you).

 

Here is a MS Word doc of one possible Mental Health Advanced Directive form that could be used: www.NBgroup.org/mental_health_advance_dir_form.doc 

 

If you do not have MS Word then you can download free software from Microsoft to view, print and copy MS Word documents from here: http://www.microsoft.com/downloads/details.aspx?familyid=95E24C87-8732-48D5-8689-AB826E7B8FDF&displaylang=en

 

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